Motherhood

Parenting is sharing!!

The other day,  as usual I was working in the kitchen, and my grandma came and said to me “Your husband did all the feeding & poopy diaper changing. He is a super Dad & Husband, my husband never did so.” This got me thinking we are equal mom and dad to our daughter i.e.  we are called as parents.  We have never heard about mom-teacher meeting or dad-teacher meeting. It is called as Parent-teacher meeting because mom & Dad are parents. Neither one is less entitled to do any parenting less than the other. So why they should be treated differently. I’ve noticed no one praises me for  taking care of my child alone while my husband works ?

Why?? Because I am mother and only I am supposed to take care of my child.???? This is what our society perceives  & defines the roles of woman & man to be for their child???

I am thankful & relieved that times have changed. Fathers are not just the ones who were sole bread earner of the family and who spend only selective quality time with their babies, while mothers do all everything else kid & house related… My husband has helped me as much as he could (by staying within his comfort zone). And I am thankful for whatever help I have got till date, there is no shame in telling so(because a bunch lot of people think that I made him do so!!! No No darlings, he helped me because it’s his house too, my daughter is his daughter too!!) This doesn’t make him a super  or wow dad/husband. He is doing what he has to do for his kid. He & I have to be  a team to raise our daughter to a beautiful human being. If ever I will not be available, he will know how our baby wants her food to be, he will know the sleeping schedules etc .. You’re an actual parent with limits. I cannot do it all by myself unless I’ll get a little help for my husband .I am not belittle anybody here, including my husband .

A father plays an equally important on his child’s development throughout adulthood. Researchers say that father who are involved with their children have children with fewer problems.

Now by reading this post don’t make your husbands do the household chores or  babysitting the little one. Sorry I should not use the term babysitting , because it’s his own kids not someone else’s. Over a period of time, space and comfort zone they will try & participate equally. How??? I don’t know really!!

 

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9 Comments

  1. Shantanu

    Good one Niharika..

    1. Thanks for reading 😊

  2. Sachin Ghosh

    Very well said Niharika… Really time has changed…. Spending more time with my kid and doing her works like diaper change, shower, feeding and all… not only makes me feel more attached with her but also makes me relax…. One smile of kid is enough to take all my worries away….

  3. priyanka

    Yes my husband also share household chores. We are a team , for his better future we share our works equally. My husband really do a lot for me n this will help my son to learn how to work together.

    1. Yes… these small steps will lead to equality and much more

  4. Pankaj

    Nicely portray the thoughts!!!

  5. Meera

    I am an open girl with free and advaced thoughts but I don’t see this happening in my family to our kids nor do I get any help in raising kids.. It’s never a team.

    1. Meera

      What reply I get in return is he can raise both kids. I am not needed. 🙁

      1. It is sad that people like that are still out there. Well dear, the only thing best nowadays with internet and technology is you can connect to others and share your feeling and get some relief. And if the situation is like this, then I feel that you try to make yourself more independent, so that you will be more confident than ever.Sometimes you don’t get what you expect in a relationship, instead of drooling over, if I may suggest, make yourself busy.

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