So after spending the entire day & finally putting my daughter to bed, I have got the chance to write because I wanted to share my journey. So here it goes….. My Journey started from being a Daughter – Wife – Mother. When I heard her first cry & held her for the first time, despite all the pains, I was smiling from within. I knew that I won’t be able to live my life without her. It was love at first sight…..
Being a mum is the most passionate and exceptional adventure any women can have. One of my sis-in-law said to me one day “ You act different, it’s like you are enjoying every moment with your daughter”, “It’s true because this moment is never coming back” I said. However you experience the role of mother, you can be certain that it will be quite different from any other you have played in your life up until now. It is not like I am the only person who is experiencing motherhood, there are millions of mum (probably better than me) around the world experiencing the same.
It has been a year, of me becoming a mum, & trust me it is not as easy as it seems(I wanted to write this post since morning… but couldn’t, because now it’s not like old days when I can do whatever I want, whenever I want). Truthfully, Motherhood changes you. I will never be the same person as I was before my daughter was born. It is altogether new level of responsibility. It involves total commitment, it requires all of you. It is a 24*7 job that begins right after your baby is born & probably doesn’t end till you leave the world. They become the center of awareness, it is similar to be the guardian, the shepherd and the keeper of a tiny, helpless human being . . . and to slowly but surely wean as well as empower her to be able to live a happy, healthy and fortunate life.
One day you’ll believe you have it all worked out, and then, of course, she’ll give you a tough time like changing her nappy…… The moment when you feel you will not be able to take it any longer, a beautiful smile (sort of toothless…. well now 4 in front) will appear from nowhere. And right during the point when it all appears to be all right, you seize a second glance and comprehend that your baby is a year old.
After listening to the stories from every one of stress and no sleep, I use to feel like my life was over. I was sad. Sad to say goodbye to freedom, to be who I was. But rarely anyone talks about all the giggles, snuggling’s & lot more. I’ve become a much lighter and happier person(sometimes annoyed but mostly happy) after having her. And though there are plenty of challenges, there’s also lots more laughter in the house.”
It doesn’t end here as well; you have to face constant challenges from other mums for not being a perfect parent. Trust me it gives you a lot of pressure & thinking. Instead of having fun and quality time with your child you start thinking of ways to be a good parent.
Lately, after going through a lot of blog’s & article’s, I started the practice of telling myself that there’s no perfect way of doing things and there’s certainly no such thing as a perfect parent or mother. Just love your baby, be kind to yourself and it will all be okay.
So to anyone experiencing similar to what I’ve just spoken about, keep doing the same and you’ll be all Okay! Share your thoughts too on the comments section, I will be glad to hear them & Happy Mother’s Day to all.