Life is fun every day in our school or school days, as we relish them with our friends in various ways. Nevertheless, one fine day things begin to change. We land in a position as a profession. We get engaged and married – have kids. The difficulties in dealing with people in our lives begin coming up. While all that happening, deep down inside we don’t stop dreaming of what we want from life.
I was always fascinated with the idea of having a bucket list, yet I never really had one.
When I come up with the hint of writing this post, I realized that it will mean much more to me if I had a virtual list instead of just a physical paper. I guess all of you know that a bucket list is a list of things which a person wants to do before dying.(here I must say if you guys have not watched the movie “The Bucket List” (2007), please go and watch it, or include it in your bucket list :P)
But as I started I was more stressed than happy because I couldn’t see how I would have the time or the money to tackle my bucket list. I even regretted when I didn’t get to everything on my list. I was so focused on my bucket list that I didn’t even realize the spontaneous opportunities I missed along the way.
Focus On the Journey, Not the Destination
Psychologist Linda Blair says that rushing behind big experiences is worthy if you appreciate the whole process. Then again, in case you’re persistently living in the future, overlooking what’s happening at this moment since you’re shooting for goals, which when happen, happen so rapidly that they’re over and after that, you need to pursue another, you’re not really living.
Saving up the money, planning it with friends and then the moment as well, yet do something which is achievable any day like have pizza for breakfast and biryani for supper. Set aside a few minutes for the little things that are effortlessly inside reach. Have the feeling that If you die today, there is nothing I missed.
The mantra is changing your perspective, change your world.
It doesn’t mean that don’t chase your dream, but it is about striking in between a balance and also wanting to have simple pleasures. It can be about people, not places or things.
- Go for a walk
- The first perfect sip of tea/coffee
- Sloppy toddler kisses
- Clean sheets
- Kiss in the rain
- Stomp in puddles
- Watch a movie
- Play a game
- Listen to music
- Draw or make something
We have the opportunity to appreciate every breath, each undertaking, every minute. It’s so straightforward still so overlooked in the present-day pace. One errand at any given moment completed appropriately. There’s fulfillment in that.
Participate Fully in the Present
I am a Work at home mom(WAHM) of a toddler and currently, I am living a blended life with barely any limitations. I am typically working half my work day in the day and the other half at night. I pledge and try to choose something simple to savor each day.
- Wearing the lipstick which is saved for special occasions
- Having a treat for no special reason
- Sit down with a cup of tea and scrolling through photos from college time
The emotion here we are looking for is Gratitude!!