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How to build healthier relationships with devices

I love my devices! My smart phone & computer have been with me since my college days. And now I can’t imagine my life without them.

Social platforms like twitter, facebook, instagram, linkden and  pinterest has become our constant companions. Screens are something we wrestle with because they are such big part of our culture/generation now. We use them. Our kids want them. They urge or insists to use them because they see how important these have become to us.

In  restaurants or public places we see people who come in a group or couple sit down at the table & within minutes they are on the phone texting surfing searching. What the point of going out if you are not relating??

It is easy to throw stone at others but when I go out, I can also not resist this irresistible beast.

Researchers have shown that the brain is damaged with excessive use of devices. The blue light from computers makes going to sleep difficult for us. And then there is back problem, neck pains, cramps, eye straining etc.

Raising a child with no help is no easy task,  so its encourages new mums like me  to share screens with the babies. As a parent, I am always concerned(a constant nagging in my head) whether  my baby is spending way too much time with screens or not???? It gives  an easy way out to keep my daughter engaged & entertained while I can cook, feed her or eat my meal or finish a car journey.  I agree that watching passively is not advisable at all. Not only babies but the older generation …. My parents and my –in laws are big fans of touch screens and this social media world.

“Kids don’t play all that much like old times.” Reallyyy?? Why not??

Screen time encourages a more bounded/sedentary lifestyle.

Being completely screen free is hard. Screens are everywhere so it is not possible or realistic for us to unplug easily. It can be addictive, too stimulating for the brain.

To set all this right we have to set some domestic  ground rules. Researchers encourages families to talk because conversations are helpful for teaching & understanding family values & intentions, perspectives, overcome obstacles or conflict & grow as a family. For babies, should be encouraged more to explore the world physically and active for minimum three hours a day.

For teens, its impossible to have a conversation,mobile devices are the social lifelines for them. They don’t even realize your presence as they are fully consumed in there devices

If you are having trouble in this area too….. here is a list of tasks you can engage in to free up and focus your efforts on improving the situation.

  • Knowing your family & friends better. Each. Individually. Try tell me about it rather than show me.

  • Go device free – to the beach, woods, parks, walk around the area you live anywhere you like.

  • Designate no phone zones or device free areas of the house or times of the day like don’t answer your phones at mealtimes.

  • Try keeping the screen time to your child(for babies) upto 15-20 min, when their attention is likely to fade away.

  • Connect with your family first then go to the computers. Filter your emails, delete the rest. To be more effective restrict the amount of time spent in front of your computer, tablet & phones.

  • Avoid using devices right before bedtime.

  • And last but not the least to become master or slave when it comes to devices & screen is your choice so choose it wisely.

So this is what I feel like doing. Let me know about your thoughts in the comment section, would love to hear from you.


  1. swati

    You pointed out the very common problem …I will try the task which you mention it…it really helpful…

    1. niharikaroychoudhury

      Thanks for appreciating swati..

  2. Mayuree Pandya

    Again well done niharika. …really in today world high tech devices are more dangerous then any kind of drugs because peoples r addictive towards socail networking sites & forget dere original social world relations

    1. niharikaroychoudhury

      I wish people will understand the difference

  3. nandini

    hi good thought….

  4. Rajetha

    Very well written nihi….and when you are havg baby its very important to spend time with him/her and show nothing is important than them .

  5. priyanka

    Really ,very nice blog.

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