Often as a mother, we find ourselves always wanting to know how are kids our kids are doing, (a few also want to know what their kids are thinking right now) even though they are in front of us most of the times, especially during this lockdown period. Whether you are a mom on 3-year-old or a teenager, you have often found yourself asking them How was your day? What are you doing? What did you do today? etc.
On the other hand, kids ask a lot of questions too. The majority of the time we have answered them again and again. And let’s be honest, we have ignored a few here and there or do the eternal silent eye-roll for the continuous heavy rain of why’s and how’s.
However here’s the thing, kids must be urged to ask more questions—not fewer! (Runn and hide out in the bathroom…my god nobody told us earlier that this was part of the deal after becoming a parent… Right!!!)
Well, we must let them know their imagination—and craving to know more—is a fantastic thing, and if we can help them achieve this by answering our kids’ truckload of questions and by making a point to ask them even as several questions in exchange. Nevertheless, it’s proven that kids mimic the behavior, routines, patterns, and words of their parents.
So moving beyond the basic ” What did you do today?” and reflect on this list of questions to help get them talking:
What makes you happy?
What do you like daydreaming about?
If you could do anything right now, what would you do?
What have your friends been up to?
Do you ever think about renaming the colors of your crayons?
What do you look forward to doing for the rest of the day?
What is your favorite character/Superhero and why?
Which store do you want to open?
What do you want to grow in the yard
What makes you feel brave?
What does it feel like when I hug you?
If your toys could talk, what would they say? (I asked this to my daughter after showing her Toy story)
How would you like to decorate your room?
Did you laugh or smile extra today?
Can you draw everything that came to your head?
What makes you feel thankful?
Where would you like to travel?
Which is your favorite song?
What would you do if you’ll be outside all day?
How do you think animals and birds talk?
Kids have great memories too, you can ask them about any day that made them feel happy
What makes your brain angry?
Which is the next place you want to travel to?
If you joined the circus, what would your circus act be?
Do you like it when other people share with you? Why?
Who is your favorite storybook character?
If you had to give everyone in the family new names, what would they be?
What would you do if you made the rules at home?
Tell me something about you that you think I might not know.
You can ask more questions like this as per the situation. And don’t worry if your child isn’t at first answering your questions—don’t rush them to move on or answer to another one promptly. This way we will be showing our kids that we are genuinely interested in their say and just not asking for the sake of asking. For us adults too, this is a great exercise for our imagination and creativity.
Do you ever question why or when we gave up thinking outside of the box regularly? By getting back there, we’re patterning the significance of curiosity. And do feel free to share your answers to these questions, too!