Hellooo? Are you there?
OKAY, now put your phone down and let me try this again.
Are you a
good listener?
Nearly everyone of us will say “Yeah, of
course!”
After that, we may follow that up with,
“Wait a sec…what did you say?”
If the aforementioned conversation has happened
to you earlier, the don’t worry, you’re not alone. Before I go further, let me
just clarify that I am also no expert in LISTENING and also admit that I can also
be distracted. For example, the other day I was talking to my boss over the
phone and my daughter decided that she would sit on my lap and chat nonstop.
At the same time, my someone knocked at the
door. After becoming a mother I have acquired this superpower that helped me to
block out those distractions as well as they were minor in contrast to what
some individuals have put up with at work, particularly in open concept
offices.
I know that we all like to be good listeners, however
it could be hard with so many distractions. However, becoming a good listener
is one of those skills you could not at all work on enough & one that would
always pay back you in your career and private life.
Here are a few tips you can try, if you want to
improve your listening skills-
1. Making it a priority.
You
will by no means become a good listener if you will not actually work at it.
This might sound strange, yet I’m not discussing
about just hearing somebody – I’m literary talking of listening. This implies when someone starts
talking, you quit composing aa messaging or email. Relax!! Take a deep breath to loosen up your and afterward
completely tune into what the individual is saying. Being a toddler mother,
this is surely going to help a lot. You should do this each and every time.
2. Don’t interrupt.
This is almost impracticable for a lot of people; however
it’s like hoisting a red flag that says: “Not listening!”
3. Don’t hijack the sentence.
You might not think of being rude when you complete somebody’s
sentence – it might be that you’re just excited also wish for joining the
conversation. Except you’re not a mind reader, and you in no way know with 100%
sureness what somebody is likely to say to you. So, let the individual finish her
or his sentence with none of your inputs. Also, it’s impolite and snaps up the
conversation off from the talker.
4. Tune in.
Aforementioned earlier, you have to totally tune in to the
other person in a conversation. Individuals who are believed to be very charming
are known for totally concentrating on whosoever is talking to them. To these individuals,
it looks like if nobody else exists. So, stop seeing around or else checking or
speaking your phone or watching out of the window or TV.
5. Repeat.
So as to turn out to be a better listener, summarise what you’ve listened when the person is completed talking to you. In this manner, you make sure that you
Have you discovered any steps that have aided you
What other strategies can somebody take to become a better listener?
That’s all for now!! Happy Listening!!!
Thanks for sharing these helpful tips. Listening skill is must needed for one and all
*Don’t Interrupt* is the only thing one need to practice to be a good listener.. I am still practicing it? .
By the way, this is a good article to share with my husband who always interrupt before I even complete the sentence… Lol… So I am defintely sharing with him and other friends who can relate to this:)
Hope they will like it too?
Some people really need to listen, this is a must read for them.
Very thought provoking post that makes oneself think. I definitely tend to interrupt especially when serious topics are being discussed or a debate in on. Something I need to improve!
The biggest step honestly is to keep the phone away!
The saying is you have double the ears than a mouth, so utilize the ears more. To be good speaker too, one needs to be a good listener. Loved your post.
Hijacking the sentence was too much me a long ago. After being a mum i am more patient. So glad you shared these tips, it is so helpful
I need to work on my listening skills.Not interrupting is important.Great tips.
wow.. lovely read.. I guess highjacking the sentence is a basic issue with many ppl
You have made me rethink about it. I thought I am a good listener but im not. Thanks for shating the tips. Will follow definitely
It’s very important to be a good listener specially with kids. They tend to ask a lot of questions and listening to them means a lot for them. I like the tips you have mentioned.
True that. Hearing and listening are different. Thanks for sharing practical tips that should be followed and included in character.
Listening has become a rare skill in this noisy world, where everyone talks and screams. But when you talk, you typically don’t learn anything new. Listening is powerful because it teaches us how other people think. Listening enriches us with new ideas, insights and compassion.
Indeed, thanks for the thoughtful comment!