The day our baby completes one year is always an exciting one and we look forward to it. And with that, all dreading also comes and goes. My baby girl turned one-year-old in April 2017. It was the time to celebrate her 1st and I didn’t realize that that was my 1st year of motherhood too. Her birth. Her life. Was the start of my journey of motherhood too. From the moment I first took the test, there was no looking back. I was my baby’s mommy. And that baby was mine. And there is nothing I love more. Now my daughter completed her 500 days today or I can say at the same time I too completed my 500 days of motherhood too.
Through this post, I want to share that not just it was the most rewardful 500 days of my life, however also the hardest. I giggled each day, however, cried a big deal as well. It transforms your relations. It changes your relationships. Motherhood influences you to feel an affection you by no means knew was. It changes life’s joys. It could be completely alarming. It reflects you how hearty you are.
So once the party has ended and my 500 days into motherhood are going to finish today, these are the things what I’ve learned:
- Time flies.
I thought the days were going on forever, but fast forward 499 days and the time truly went by too quick. My tiny baby grew up into a wandering tot in a flash.
- The small moments are everything.
The tiniest moments turn out to be the biggest achievements, such as a long-awaited poop. The first smile or the adorable baby talk(nowadays she babbles kaa –pattaaa-kaa-kaa-pattaa-kaaa—babujjiii). Watching your baby grow is incredible. Each milestone comes and goes very quickly. And it’s the small moments you remember, like the joy a baby can get from playing with a cardboard box or kitchen utensils.
- Increase in emotions.
After becoming a parent, in flash feelings begin to stream. The affection you sense for your small one is overpowering. At times it can appear to be nonsensical. You become soppy just about everything, similar to when you need to store away your child’s garments since they don’t fit any longer. Anxiety, fear, blues likewise has a tendency to be amplified with an infant. What’s more, when you blend in hormones and exhaustion it makes one over-sentimental mom.
- A baby alters your marriage.
Babies can flip your marriage on its head. With little rest, high pressure and absence of quality time like a couple, an infant can incur significant damage on a marriage. Romance gets a break when the baby is enduringly cuddled in between your partner and you. There is not a single time frame for sporadic weekend getaways or movie nights; baby’s demands to come first.
- Relationship changes.
Along with marriage, relations with each one else alters as well. Relations with friends get reserved. It is difficult to accommodate a proper discussion without being disrupted by a child. Girl’s sleepover seems to be a distant dream. New alliances are made with other moms. A friendship which could bear the challenge of a baby is destined to be.
- Full of guilt.
There is nothing like a perfect mom, so why we remorse when we mess things up? Mothers are nevertheless human and they can get irritated, upset, sad, grumpy and angry. We all have sour days, babies do as well.
- In no way judge a new mom.
We never make out what another mother is experiencing. Earlier having a baby, I couldn’t help but get irritated at the mom whose tot was screaming in a supermarket or a plane. We’ve all experienced the same, so rather than judging proffer to help.
- Taking moments to be with your baby.
I know there are a variety of things to get back to and the house is a mess. But take time and slow down to be with your little one. Put the phone down. And in reality look at and be there with them. Whether it’s the morning cuddles, babbling with them or seeing them play in the bath.
- Set off with the stream
I have exerted way too much in Googling as well as reading regarding ways to be a good mom in my first year, from breastfeeding to sleep to discipline. Please follow your instincts and do whatever works for your baby and you.
- It’s ok to have some me time.
For an initial couple of months of motherhood, I looked-for everything to do by myself subsequent to recovering from the C-sec. I am not accusing my baby here, but rather I let her took charge of my life and I lost the feeling of the individual I used to be before motherhood. I reexamined what was imperative to me and tried to set aside a few minutes for myself.
To begin with, it sensed unusual to be without a baby attached to my hip. Soon later, it felt refreshed, and I felt liberated and more keen to my little one. If somebody offers to watch the child or prepare a meal for you, take them up on it. You don’t need to be supermom constantly.
- It’s okay not to be happy all the time.
Motherhood is complex. We are recited to treasure every minute and that this is a great time of our lives. I can’t say I will treasure every moment although feeling upset or down is typical. And the further you talk regarding it, the further you see other moms experience the same.
- Mommys are awesome at accommodating.
Of course, it has been a difficult first year although moms are good at accommodating; be it little sleep, multi-tasking or taking care of a sick child…. What may appear overpowering at first promptly turn out to be second nature?
So if I can do this anybody can do it. I have matured in ways I in no way thought. Been agitated farther than I ever considered possible. And celebrated stuff I not at all knew will make me happy.
My daughter is my motivation for all I do. Before turning a mom. That reference to—MOMMY–didn’t appear super alluring. But as I was and am with her. I cannot think of a reference I love more.